questions about honesty with yourself
the gap between the story you tell and the one that is actually true. these questions sit in that gap. not to catch you out, just to let you say the real version once.
today
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →- how are you, actually?
- what are you afraid is your fault that probably isn’t?
- what are you angry about that you keep calling "tired"?
- what are you angry at that you’ve dressed up as acceptance?
- what are you angry you have to be grateful for?
- what are you avoiding thinking about?
- what are you carrying that isn't yours to carry?
- what are you carrying that someone handed you and never took back?
- what are you carrying up the stairs every night?
- what are you doing alone that you wish you weren’t?
- what are you doing instead of the thing you actually want?
- what are you doing more of than you used to?
- what are you doing out of habit that stopped meaning anything?
- what are you done pretending to be okay about?
- what are you faking enthusiasm about?
- what are you grieving that you were told to be glad about?
- what are you grieving that you wouldn’t call grief?
- what are you handling "really well", supposedly?
- what are you keeping busy to avoid feeling?
- what are you keeping going that quietly ended?
- what are you pretending didn’t change you?
- what are you pretending not to want?
- what are you pretending to have moved on from?
- what are you pretending you chose?
- what are you protecting by staying busy?
- what are you protecting other people from knowing?
- what are you proud of that nobody knows about?
- what are you putting off that isn't really about time?
- what are you quietly hopeful you can change?
- what are you ready to forgive yourself for?
- what are you scared people would think if they saw the real number?
- what are you still angry at yourself for?
- what are you still defending that already ended?
- what are you still doing for the approval of someone who left?
- what are you still trying to earn?
- what are you tired of being strong about?
- what are you too proud to ask for?
- what are you waiting for permission to feel?
- what did the quiet show you this year?
- what did this year take that you haven’t totaled up?
- what did you almost text the group chat and didn’t?
- what did you bury under being fine?
- what did you call "closure" that wasn’t?
- what did you decide not to want because you couldn’t have it?
- what did you decide to "be okay with" that you aren’t?
- what did you decide to stop hoping for?
- what did you decide was too dramatic to feel?
- what did you decide you didn’t deserve?
- what did you do today that nobody knows about?
- what did you eat standing up over the sink this week?
- what did you fake your way through today?
- what did you forgive too quickly because it was easier?
- what did you give up to keep everyone comfortable?
- what did you keep doing because stopping felt like admitting something?
- what did you learn the hard way that you’d save someone from?
- what did you let become normal that used to alarm you?
- what did you let define the year that was one bad week?
- what did you let define your worth that has nothing to do with it?
- what did you let slide into "that’s just how it is"?
- what did you let slide that you shouldn’t have?
- what did you let them rewrite about what happened?
- what did you let them think was fine because correcting it felt like too much?
- what did you let yourself believe because the truth was too much work?
- what did you let yourself enjoy without earning it?
- what did you let yourself off the hook for too easily?
- what did you lie about this week, even by omission?
- what did you make it through?
- what did you make peace with that still wakes you?
- what did you make smaller so it would fit the conversation?
- what did you mean by the last thing you said "jokingly"?
- what did you mishear yourself say that was more true than you meant?
- what did you mistake for moving on?
- what did you mistake for strength that was just not stopping?
- what did you nearly say this week, and didn't?
- what did you need today that you didn't get?
- what did you not let yourself want this year?
- what did you outgrow that you still pretend to want?
- what did you pretend not to need so it wouldn’t hurt to not get it?
- what did you pretend was a choice?
- what did you say yes to today that you wanted to say no to?
- what did you settle for and call "realistic"?
- what did you survive that you never named?
- what did you survive that you’ve never given yourself credit for?
- what did you swear you'd never do that you're doing again?
- what did you talk yourself into being grateful for?
- what did you tell yourself today that you didn't believe?
- what did you tell yourself you’d deal with later?
- what did you want at sixteen that you quietly still want?
- what did your therapist say (or would say) that you still haven’t done?
- what do you do when you can’t sleep that you don’t admit to?
- what do you keep buying that doesn’t fix it?
- what do you keep promising yourself every january?
- what do you say "i’m fine" about?
- what feeling do you reach for food instead of?
- what have you been pretending is fine?
- what have you given up that you haven't admitted giving up?
- what made you laugh when you were supposed to be sad?
- what part of your day are you just getting through?
- what pattern have you been pretending isn't a pattern?
- what would change if you let people see you tired?
- what would change if you stopped managing how you come across?
- what would change if you stopped saying "it’s fine"?
- what would you ask for if you knew it wouldn’t be held against you?
- what would you change about the way you talk to yourself?
- what would you confess if it vanished the second you said it?
- what would you do if being fine wasn’t the rent you pay to be here?
- what would you do if no one would ever find out?
- what would you do with an hour nobody could see?
- what would you say if no one was going to remember it?
- what would you say if you weren’t the strong one tonight?
- what would you say to everyone here tonight, carrying their own?
- what would you say to the body you’ve been fighting?
- what would you say to the friend going through exactly this?
- what would you say to the part of you that’s still scared?
- what would you say to your partner if they couldn’t hear it?
- what would you say to yourself this time next year?
- what would you stop apologising for if you trusted you were allowed?
- what would you stop doing if money weren’t the reason?
- what would you tell a stranger on a train you can't tell anyone you know?
- what would you tell them if tonight was the night to say it?
- what would you tell your body if it could hear you?
- what would you write if this was the only place it couldn’t be used against you?
- what would you write if you knew it would be read by someone who gets it?
- what would you write in a diary you knew you'd burn?
- what would you write to the person you used to be?
- what would your week look like if you told the truth on monday?
- what's costing you more than you let on?
- what's heavier than you let people think it is?
- what’s something you forgave yourself for recently?
- what's stopped working that you haven't admitted yet?
- what's the bit of you that wouldn't survive your own bio?
- what’s the bit you still can’t quite name?
- what’s the comfort you reach for that isn’t comfort?
- what's the comment you typed and then deleted?
- what's the compliment you've never quite believed?
- what’s the conversation you’re finally ready to have?
- what’s the door that’s lighter than it used to be?
- what's the favour you said yes to and resent?
- what's the help you turned down that you needed?
- what's the last thing that properly got to you?
- what’s the lie that’s gotten too big to take back?
- what's the most embarrassing thing you actually believe?
- what’s the part of the past you keep editing?
- what’s the pettiest thing that genuinely annoyed you today?
- what's the question you'd ask if you weren't scared of the answer?
- what's the question you'd ask your parents if they'd answer honestly?
- what’s the sentence you’d start with if someone just listened?
- what's the smile you've been doing too much?
- what's the song that undoes you when nobody's around?
- what’s the song you’ve had on repeat and won’t admit?
- what's the thing about home you'd never post?
- what’s the thing about you that only the night knows?
- what's the thing about your week that no one would guess?
- what’s the thing you do that you’d be mortified to be caught doing?
- what’s the thing you keep almost quitting?
- what's the thing you keep almost saying to your reflection?
- what's the thing you keep almost telling your mum?
- what’s the thing you keep paying for in sleep?
- what's the thing you keep telling yourself you'll feel once things calm down?
- what’s the thing you laugh about that actually hurt?
- what’s the thing you only do when nobody’s home?
- what's the thing you swallowed to keep the peace?
- what’s the thing you tell people is getting better?
- what's the thing you'd change about today if you got it again?
- what's the thing you'd let yourself feel if you had one private hour?
- what's the thing you'd say if the room couldn’t repeat it?
- what's the thing you'd say if you weren't managing everyone's reaction?
- what's the thing you'd say sober that you only say tired?
- what's the thing you'd tell a stranger before you'd tell family?
- what's the thing you'd thank tonight for teaching you?
- what's the thing you'd undo about this week?
- what’s the thing you’d undo if shame weren’t in the way?
- what's the thing you'd write if the page erased itself?
- what’s the thing you’ll be glad you faced?
- what’s the thing you’re learning to say no to?
- what’s the thing you’re secretly hopeful about?
- what’s the thing you’ve normalised that isn’t normal?
- what’s the truth you tell yourself at 2am that you abandon by morning?
- what's the truth your face gives away?
- what’s the unhinged thing you’d do if it didn’t count?
- what’s the version of help you’d actually accept?
- what's the version of the story you tell yourself before sleep?
- who did you become to survive something?
- who did you stop being honest with, and when?
- who do you compare yourself to in secret?
- who do you envy in a way you’d never admit?
- who do you keep texting back happy when you’re not?
- who do you owe a real apology to?
- who do you perform "okay" for the hardest?
- who do you protect by lying about how you are?
- who do you want to be softer with?
- who in your life is carrying something they haven’t told you?
- who would be relieved if you finally said it?
- who would you call if it was acceptable to be this honest?
- who would you forgive if forgiving wasn’t the same as saying it was okay?
- who would you let see you cry?