what would you change about the way you talk to yourself?
you have a way of speaking to yourself that you'd probably never use on someone you loved. and somewhere along the way, you stopped noticing how harsh it had become.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →start by writing down something you said to yourself recently, something unkind or dismissive. the exact words if you can remember them. then write about where that voice comes from. does it sound like anyone. does it show up at particular moments, after mistakes, in the mirror, when you're tired. now write what you'd want to say instead. not affirmations. just something truer and less cruel. you might find this harder than expected. that difficulty is worth writing about too. notice the resistance. what does it protect.
- write down the last harsh thing you said to yourself and try rewriting it the way you'd say it to a friend.
- think about when the voice is loudest, and what's usually happening around you.
- ask yourself whose voice it originally was before it became yours.
this is for anyone who's harder on themselves than they'd ever be on someone else. for people who know their inner voice isn't kind but haven't stopped to really listen to it.