what did you let define your worth that has nothing to do with it?
you handed something the power to decide whether you were enough. a job title, a relationship, a number, a person's opinion. and it probably never should have had that power at all.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →write down the thing that has been measuring your worth. don't overthink the choice. take the first one that rises. then write about when you started letting it define you. was there a moment, or did it creep in gradually? try to remember what you were looking for when you gave it that role. were you looking for proof that you mattered, or were you trying to silence a doubt? then write honestly about what happens to you when that measure gives you a low reading. how do you feel? what do you do? finally, write one sentence about what your worth actually rests on, if you are being truthful with yourself.
- write about the moment you first noticed yourself checking this thing to see if you were okay.
- ask yourself who or what taught you to measure yourself this way.
- try writing about a time when this measure said you were failing, but deep down you knew you were fine.
this is for anyone who has felt crushed by something that, if they stepped back, they would recognise has no right to define them. especially for people who already half know this but haven't written it down yet.