what are you done pretending to be okay about?
pretending to be fine takes a specific kind of energy. it is not dramatic. it is just a quiet, constant effort. this question asks what you are tired of pretending about.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →write down the thing. the situation, the loss, the arrangement you agreed to, the way something turned out. then write about how you have been performing okayness around it. what do you say when people ask. what face do you make. what do you tell yourself to keep the performance going. now write what is actually true underneath. you do not have to know what to do about it. you do not have to have a plan. just write the honest version, the one you have not said out loud. let it be messy or contradictory. that is fine.
- write about the specific phrase you use to convince others, and yourself, that you are fine about this.
- name the moment you first started pretending, and what made you decide it was easier than honesty.
- ask yourself what would change if you admitted, even just here, that you are not okay about it.
this is for anyone who is exhausted by their own composure and ready to stop performing fine, even just on paper.