questions about avoidance
the message you keep not opening. the thing you keep not starting. avoidance is rarely about the thing itself, and these questions ask what it is actually about.
today
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →- what are you afraid happens if you finally stop?
- what are you afraid is only getting worse?
- what are you angry about that you keep calling "tired"?
- what are you angry at that you’ve dressed up as acceptance?
- what are you avoiding thinking about?
- what are you doing because stopping would mean grieving?
- what are you doing instead of the thing you actually want?
- what are you doing to fill a space that’s actually grief?
- what are you done pretending to be okay about?
- what are you handling "really well", supposedly?
- what are you holding because letting go feels like losing?
- what are you holding in just to keep the evening pleasant?
- what are you keeping busy to avoid feeling?
- what are you keeping going that quietly ended?
- what are you pretending not to want?
- what are you pretending to have moved on from?
- what are you protecting by staying busy?
- what are you protecting other people from knowing?
- what are you protecting that’s already gone?
- what are you ready to put down?
- what are you still waiting to be ready for?
- what are you too proud to ask for?
- what are you waiting to feel before you let yourself begin?
- what decision are you putting off by calling it "thinking about it"?
- what did you bury that keeps coming up?
- what did you bury that the body kept the receipt for?
- what did you bury under being fine?
- what did you decide to "be okay with" that you aren’t?
- what did you decide to stop carrying into the new week?
- what did you fake your way through today?
- what did you give up on quietly, without a decision?
- what did you keep doing because stopping felt like admitting something?
- what did you let become normal that used to alarm you?
- what did you let slide into "that’s just how it is"?
- what did you let them think was fine because correcting it felt like too much?
- what did you let yourself believe because the truth was too much work?
- what did you mean by the last thing you said "jokingly"?
- what did you nearly say this week, and didn't?
- what did you pretend not to hear because you couldn’t carry it?
- what did you pretend not to need so it wouldn’t hurt to not get it?
- what did you stop asking for so you’d stop being disappointed?
- what did you tell yourself you’d deal with later?
- what did your therapist say (or would say) that you still haven’t done?
- what do you do when you can’t sleep that you don’t admit to?
- what do you keep almost looking up at 2am?
- what do you keep buying that doesn’t fix it?
- what do you keep starting and never finishing?
- what do you say "i’m fine" about?
- what feeling do you reach for food instead of?
- what have you given up that you haven't admitted giving up?
- what part of your day are you just getting through?
- what pattern have you been pretending isn't a pattern?
- what would your evenings be if you weren’t so braced?
- what would your week look like if you told the truth on monday?
- what's been open on your phone all day that you haven't opened?
- what's costing you more than you let on?
- what's stopped working that you haven't admitted yet?
- what's the appointment you keep not making?
- what's the call you let go to voicemail on purpose?
- what's the comfort show you put on to not be alone?
- what’s the comfort you reach for that isn’t comfort?
- what's the door you keep telling yourself is too heavy?
- what's the message you've been pretending you didn't see?
- what's the part of the day you dread and don't mention?
- what’s the part of your story you always skip?
- what's the question you keep not asking?
- what's the thing you keep not deciding?
- what's the thing you keep rereading and not replying to?
- what's the thing you keep rescheduling in your own head?
- what's the thing you keep telling yourself you'll feel once things calm down?
- what’s the thing you laugh about that actually hurt?
- what’s the thing you tell people is getting better?
- what's the thing you'd cry about if you started?
- what's the thing you'd grieve if you let yourself?
- what's the thing you'd let yourself feel if you had one private hour?
- what's the thing you'd say sober that you only say tired?
- what’s the thing you’ve normalised that isn’t normal?
- what’s the truth you tell yourself at 2am that you abandon by morning?
- what's the version of events you've been telling that isn't quite right?
- what’s the version of rest you keep postponing?
- who haven't you replied to that you keep meaning to?