what are you too proud to ask for?
there is something you need. you know exactly what it is. but somewhere along the way, needing it started to feel like failing.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →write the word "help" at the top of the page and notice what your body does. then, underneath, list the things you have genuinely needed from someone else in the past month. not big dramatic things, just the ordinary ones. a hand with something. a conversation. permission to not cope. next to each one, write down what stopped you from asking. look at those reasons. some of them might be real. some might just be pride wearing the costume of strength. write about which is which. be specific about one moment you nearly asked but didn't.
- think about the last time someone asked you for help and how easy it was to say yes, then ask yourself why you won't let anyone do the same for you.
- write about what you imagine the other person would think if you asked, and whether that imagined reaction is actually true.
- consider what you have lost, practically or emotionally, by refusing to ask.
this is for anyone who has made self-sufficiency their whole identity. especially if you are exhausted by it but still can't stop.