who haven't you replied to that you keep meaning to?
you think about them. you mean to reply. and then you don't, again. the gap between intending to respond and actually doing it holds something worth looking at.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →write down who it is. you don't need to explain the whole relationship, just the name and what they sent or said. then write about what happens when you think about replying. is it guilt, is it tiredness, is it that you don't know what to say. be honest about the delay. sometimes we avoid replying not because we don't care but because caring feels like a lot right now. write about what you'd want to say if you could say it perfectly. then write about what's actually stopping you. the answer might be simpler, or stranger, than you expect.
- write the reply you'd send if you didn't have to worry about how long it's been.
- think about whether the silence is about them or about something you're going through.
- consider what the delay might look like from their side, and how that sits with you.
this is for you if there's a name on your phone you keep scrolling past with a small pang. if the guilt of not replying has somehow become harder than just replying would be.