who do you miss that you were supposed to be glad to lose?
the story everyone tells is that you are better off. and maybe you are. but there are moments when you miss them anyway, and that missing has no home.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →write their name, or their initial, or just the word "them" if that is easier. then write what you miss. not the person as a whole, but the specific things. a sound, a habit, the way a room felt. keep the list concrete and small. then write about what it is like to miss someone you are not supposed to miss. where does that feeling go? do you hide it, argue yourself out of it, feel guilty for it? write about one moment recently when the missing caught you off guard. you do not have to justify the feeling. just let it exist on the page without defending or explaining it away.
- write about the specific, small thing you miss most, the one that would sound silly if you said it out loud.
- ask yourself who told you that you should be glad, and whether their version of the story is the only true one.
- consider whether missing someone and knowing they were wrong for you can both be true at the same time.
this is for anyone grieving someone they were told to be relieved about losing. especially if you have had to do that grieving quietly.