what decision are you putting off by calling it "thinking about it"?
there is a difference between thinking something through and using thought as a place to hide. sometimes you already know. the thinking is just a way of standing still without admitting you have stopped.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →write down the decision. state it simply, as a choice between two or three real options. now write how long you have been thinking about it. below that, write what you would choose if you had to answer right now, no more time allowed. notice what comes up. if it came quickly, write about why that answer has not been enough. if nothing came, write about what it would cost to choose wrong. try to separate the thinking that is useful from the thinking that is just delay. write one line about what you are protecting yourself from by not deciding yet.
- write about what you would tell a friend who described this same situation to you.
- think about whether the thinking has changed at all over time, or whether it just circles.
- write about what your life looks like in six months if you still haven't decided.
this is for you if you have said the words "i'm still figuring it out" so many times they have lost their meaning.