what’s the thing you’ve normalised that isn’t normal?
you adjusted. you adapted. you stopped noticing. but the thing did not change. you just built your life around it.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →write a list of things in your daily life that you would find concerning if a friend described them. the way someone speaks to you. how little you sleep. what you tolerate at work. how rarely you are asked how you are. pick one and write about when it started. try to remember the version of you who would have been shocked by it. what would that version say? write about the slow process of getting used to it, the small adjustments, the excuses, the reclassifying of something wrong into something manageable. be honest about whether manageable is the same as okay.
- describe the thing to yourself as if you were describing a stranger's life, and notice your reaction.
- write about the moment you stopped pushing back, and what made you give in.
- think about what a child version of you would think if they saw this part of your life.
this is for anyone who has said "it's not that bad" so many times they have started to believe it.