what are you still angry at yourself for?
other people's mistakes you can explain away. your own, though. yours get a different standard. there's something you did, or didn't do, and you're still not finished being angry about it.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →write down the thing. the specific one. not the general feeling of self-disappointment, but the actual event or choice or silence that still bothers you. describe what happened as factually as you can. then write about what you think it says about you. this is usually the hardest part, because the anger is often less about the action and more about what you decided it meant. now try something. write about what you would say to a friend who did the same thing. notice the difference in tone. write about why you deserve the version you'd give a friend. if you can't write that yet, write about why you can't.
- write about the thing you did and then write what you decided it proved about you.
- ask yourself how long is long enough to carry this, and what changes if you put it down.
- try writing about the context you always leave out when you replay the memory.
for anyone who has forgiven others for far worse than the thing they still hold against themselves.