what are you handling "really well", supposedly?
people have said it, or you have said it to yourself. you are handling this really well. but handling something well and actually being okay are not the same thing. sometimes one is a way of avoiding the other.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →write down the thing you are supposedly handling well. then write about what handling it well looks like from the outside. the calm, the routine, the getting on with it. now write about what it looks like from the inside. be specific. what happens at night, or in the shower, or in the car. write about whether the handling well is a choice or a habit. think about what would happen if you stopped being so composed about it, even for a day. who would notice, and what would they see. write one honest sentence about how you are actually doing with this thing, using no qualifiers.
- write about the moment someone praised how well you were coping, and what you felt hearing it.
- think about whether the composure is protecting you or preventing something you need.
- write about the version of not handling it well that you are most afraid of.
this is for you if someone has recently told you how well you are doing and it made you feel more alone, not less.