what did this year take that you haven’t totaled up?
you survived the year. you kept going. but somewhere along the way, things were lost or spent or worn down, and you never stopped long enough to count them.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →write a list. not of events, but of losses. the small ones and the large ones. energy you spent and did not get back. people who drifted. confidence that eroded. time you will not recover. routines that fell apart. versions of yourself that did not make it through. write each one down simply, without explaining or justifying. just name them. then read the list back. let yourself feel the weight of it all at once, rather than in the scattered way you have been carrying it. you do not need to fix any of it tonight. you just need to see it clearly. that is the first honest thing you can do.
- write about the thing this year took that you have not told anyone about yet.
- think about what you had in january that you no longer have, and sit with that inventory.
- consider the version of yourself from twelve months ago and write about what they would not recognise now.
this is for anyone standing at the end of a difficult year who has been so focused on getting through it that they forgot to grieve what it cost.