what are you grieving that you were told to be glad about?
there is a loss you are carrying that the people around you would call a gain. they said congratulations, or good riddance, or you're better off. but something in you is still mourning.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →write down the thing you are grieving. then write what you were told to feel about it. a promotion that took you away from something you loved. a breakup everyone said was overdue. a move to a better place. a pregnancy. a recovery. name the gap between what others expected you to feel and what you actually felt. do not try to resolve it. just describe it. write about what you lost inside the thing everyone celebrated. give the grief its full name. if you have never said it plainly, this is the page where you can.
- write about the moment someone congratulated you and you felt something sink.
- describe the loss that lives inside the gain, as precisely as you can.
- write about what it would mean to let yourself grieve this openly, without defending it.
this is for anyone whose grief has been dismissed, corrected, or cheerfully overruled by the people around them.