what did you forgive too quickly because it was easier?
some forgiveness isn't forgiveness. it's just the quickest way to make the tension stop. you said it was fine, you moved on, and the thing you forgave went somewhere underground where it's been living ever since.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →write about the situation. what happened, who did it, and what you said afterwards. then write about the gap between what you said and what you felt. how quickly did you forgive. hours, minutes, before they'd even finished apologising. write about what you were really protecting by letting it go so fast. the relationship, the peace, your image as someone who doesn't make a fuss. then write what an honest response would have sounded like if you'd given yourself a week before answering. you don't need to reopen anything. this is just about telling yourself the truth on paper.
- write about the physical feeling you had at the moment you said it was fine, and whether your body agreed.
- consider whether you've forgiven the same kind of thing from the same person more than once.
- think about what you needed to hear from them that you never actually got.
this is for the person who keeps the peace at their own expense. for anyone who's been called easygoing and knows it isn't always a compliment.