what did you decide you didn’t deserve?
sometimes the cruellest decisions are the ones you make about yourself, so quietly that you barely notice. you just stopped reaching for something, and told yourself it made sense.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →write down the thing that comes to mind first. don't filter it. it might be something large, like love or rest or recognition. it might be something small, like asking for help at a particular moment. once you have it, write about when you decided this. was there a specific event, or did it happen slowly? try to remember what you told yourself at the time, the reasoning you used. then write one line about whether you still believe that reasoning now. you don't need to argue yourself out of anything. just notice the gap between the decision and the truth.
- write about the moment you first pulled back from wanting it, and what you told yourself instead.
- think about whether someone you love decided the same thing about themselves, and how you would feel about that.
- try writing about what it would look like to let yourself want it again, even just on paper.
this one is for anyone who has quietly disqualified themselves from something they still think about. especially if the decision felt practical at the time but aches now.