who would you let see you cry?
this question is really about trust, the kind that lives in the body. it is not about who you love most, but about who feels safe enough that you could fall apart without bracing yourself.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →write down the name that comes to mind. if no name comes, write that instead, because that is worth sitting with too. then write about what makes this person, or this absence, your answer. what is it about them that makes the idea of being seen at your most unguarded feel bearable? think about the last time you actually cried in front of someone. write about how it felt. was it a relief or did you regret it? if you tend to cry alone, write a few lines about what you are protecting when you do that. this is not about being more vulnerable. it is about understanding the rules you have made for yourself around being seen.
- write about what the person you named has done to earn that kind of trust, even if it was nothing dramatic.
- think about someone you used to be able to cry in front of but can't any more, and what changed.
- if your answer was nobody, write about what it would take for someone to become that person.
this is for anyone who has a complicated relationship with being seen. especially for people who are known for holding it together.