who taught you that needing things was weakness?
somewhere along the way, you picked up the idea that needing people, needing help, needing softness, was something to be ashamed of. someone taught you that. or something did.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →think back. not to a theory, but to a scene. a moment when you needed something and it went badly. maybe someone rolled their eyes. maybe no one came. maybe you watched someone else get punished for needing. write that scene down in plain detail. who was there, how old you were, what happened. then write what you decided about yourself because of it. the rule you made. something like, "i decided i wouldn't need anything again." seeing the rule on paper can help you recognise it as something you learned, not something that's true.
- write about a time you needed help and didn't ask, and what it cost you.
- think about the person who modelled self-sufficiency for you, and write about what they might have been hiding.
- write about what needing something actually feels like in your body, before you shut it down.
this is for anyone who prides themselves on not needing much. especially if that pride is starting to feel more like loneliness.