who do you want to make proud that’s no longer here?
there's someone whose opinion still shapes your choices, even though they're gone. you measure things against what they might have thought. their approval still matters, somewhere in you, and there's nothing strange about that.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →write down their name. then write about what you think they'd notice if they could see your life now. not the big achievements necessarily, but the small things. the way you handle a certain kind of moment. the choices you make when nobody is watching. write about what you hope would make them proud, and be honest about whether you're living that way or just wanting to. if there's a gap between the two, write about what's in it. you might also write about the last thing they said to you, or the last ordinary moment you shared. let the page hold both the missing and the trying.
- write about a small, recent moment where you thought of them and wondered if they'd approve.
- describe the quality in yourself that you most want to believe they'd recognise.
- think about whether you're chasing their pride or carrying their values, and what the difference feels like.
this is for anyone still in quiet conversation with someone who has died, still shaping a life partly around their gaze.