what are you tired of explaining?
there is something about your life, your choices, or your situation that you have explained so many times the words have gone flat. the tiredness is not about the topic. it is about never being simply understood.
every day there's one live question, the same for everyone. answer it anonymously, see what other people said. it's all gone in seven days.
answer today's question →write down the thing you are tired of explaining. just state it, plainly. then write about how many times you have had to explain it, and to whom. notice the pattern. is it always the same kind of person asking? is it always the same misunderstanding? now write about what you wish people just knew without you having to say it. the thing underneath the explanation. the part that gets lost every time you have to justify yourself again. finally, write a few lines about what it would feel like to be around someone who already understood. not agreed, necessarily. just understood.
- write about the most recent time you had to explain, and the exact moment you felt your energy leave.
- ask yourself whether you are explaining for their benefit or still, somewhere, trying to convince yourself.
- consider what you would do with the energy you currently spend on justifying this part of your life.
this is for anyone who is worn out from translating themselves for other people. especially if the explaining has started to make you doubt the thing itself.